Bullying in schools and offices

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How to overcome the effects of bullying.
What is EMDR and can it help you?

Do you know someone who has been bullied, in the office? At school by their peers? These produce bad feelings and traumas which had become deeply stuck in the mind … Often causing havoc in the life of a client.  This could be events such as rape, abuse, bullying, domestic violence, failure, seeing or being in accidents.

Just as Rapid Eye Movement (REM) works in your dreams to sort out day-to-day events, this bi-lateral stimulation just seems to sort out the deep-seated memory and the very basic negative cognition attached to the unhelpful events.  Such as ‘I am dirty’, ‘I am weak’, ‘I am not all there’, ‘I am not normal’, ‘I am unworthy’.

What happens when you are traumatised?

Most of the time, your body routinely manages new information and experiences without you being aware of it.  However, when something out of the ordinary occurs and you are traumatised by an overwhelming event (e.g. car accident) or by being repeatedly subjected to distress (e.g. childhood neglect), your natural coping mechanism can become overloaded.  This overloading can result in disturbing experiences remaining frozen in your brain or being “unprocessed”.  Such unprocessed memories and feelings are stored in the brain in a “raw” form. This means that they can be continually re-stimulated when you experience events similar to the difficult experiences you have been through.  Often the memory itself is long forgotten, but the painful feelings such as anxiety, panic, anger or despair are continually triggered in the present.  Your ability to live in the present and learn from new experiences can. therefore, become inhibited.

Can the mind heal naturally in the same way as the body does?

Francine Shapiro is among a group of prominent innovators who discovered that the body has a natural psychological healing process which helps to deal with day-to-day stresses and minor traumas.  This process helps reduce discomfort and enables you to assimilate, learn and grow from new experiences.  Much of this natural coping mechanism has been found to occur during sleep, particularly during that period of sleep when you experience rapid eye movement (REM). In 1987, Francine Shapiro used this insight to developed Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), initially as a treatment for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Since then, EMDR has evolved into a highly effective therapeutic technique for a wide range of problems.

 Can anyone benefit from EMDR?

As part of a therapy session, EMDR can accelerate therapy by resolving the impact of your past traumas and allowing you to live more fully in the present.  This process is rapid, and any disturbing experiences, if they occur at all, last for a comparatively short period of time. However, it is not, however, appropriate for everyone and more gentle but longer help is available. Nevertheless, you need to be aware of and willing to experience the strong feelings and disturbing thoughts, which sometimes occur during sessions

How do I know this is not just another new untried therapy?

EMDR is an innovative clinical treatment which has successfully helped over a million individuals.  The validity and reliability of EMDR has been established by rigorous research.  There are now at least nineteen controlled studies into EMDR making it the most thoroughly researched method used in the treatment of trauma.  It is recommended by the NICE guidelines for PTSD.

Will I will remain in control and empowered?

During EMDR treatment, you will remain in control, fully alert and wide awake.  This is not a form of hypnosis and you can stop the process at any time.  Throughout the session, the therapist will support and facilitate your own self-healing and intervene as little as possible.  Reprocessing is usually experienced as something that happens spontaneously, and new connections and insights are felt to arise quite spontaneously from within. As a result, most people experience EMDR as being a natural and very empowering therapy.

What is an EMDR session like?

EMDR utilises this natural healing ability of your body.  After a thorough assessment, you will be asked specific questions about a particular disturbing memory.  A specific protocol is followed and, eye movements, similar to those during REM sleep, will be recreated simply by asking you to watch the therapist’s finger moving backwards and forwards across your visual field. Tapping on the knees is also very effective and you may receive a mixture of both movements.  The eye movements or knee taps will last for a short while and then stop.  You will then be asked to report back on the experiences you had during each of these sets of eye movements or knee taps.  Experiences during a session may include changes in thoughts, images and feelings.  Sometimes you may become aware of new, forgotten memories.

With repeated sets of eye movements, or knee taps, the memory tends to change in such a way that it loses its painful intensity and simply becomes a neutral memory of an event in the past.  Other associated memories may also heal at the same time. This linking of related memories can lead to a dramatic and rapid improvement in many aspects of your life. This is called Adaptive Information Processing.

How long does treatment take?

EMDR can be brief focused treatment or part of a longer psychotherapy programme.  EMDR sessions can be for 60 to 90 minutes.


IEMDR require multi-sessional treatments have been proven to help 90% of people suffering from migraine headaches that are not attributed as secondary to a medical condition or medication.

Now your call to action, what will happen if you do this? See the relief and difference the freedom to be doing something far more pleasurable.

So pick up the phone, write a start date down … and just do it for you!

Hypnotherapy/Life Coaching/counselling can help.

If you need any help in coming to terms with anything I have written in this article or just need the help to be nudged into the healthier direction then please call me on 01234 852 930 for an initial free phone chat or appointment. Calmpower Stress Management, Hypnotherapy & Counselling since 1998.

Website: www.calmpower.com email: action@calmpower.com
© 2016 Joanne Waine DipCBT,DipCAH,DipHyp(Paediatrics),DipSC,MNCH(AccHypSup),SQHP, MPNLP, EFT-ADV.



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Joanne Waine is a highly experienced, motivated, professional Clinical Hypnotherapist totally committed to the empowerment of the individual. Specialising is Stress Management, weight loss issues are covered in the Calmpower Hypnoslimmers Programme, Relationship Issues; Anxiety, Stress & Confidence, Insomnia and Phobias. To achieve this she utilises advanced clinical hypnosis techniques in conjunction with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), counselling, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP – quantum physics how the mind and body work together), Time Line Therapy™, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT™) and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reconstruction (EMDR) that have proven results to assist her clients in releasing all resistance to their goals and reaching their full potential.

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